I mentioned in my last post that over the last year, I discovered who I want in my corner – people who build me up, make me smile when I see their name pop up on my phone, encourage me and support me…that is, the people who make me happy.
These are people like a former boss, a mentor in West Virginia, a really amazing guy in Utah, my grandparents…the list goes on. Well, it doesn’t go on too much. That would defeat the point, which is this: working more than 40 hours a week while trying to focus on overall wellness (including prioritizing healthy sleep, eating and exercise habits) makes it hard to keep up with the hundreds of friends I made in college.
While I do thrive in having a large network and keeping in some sort of continued contact with about 100 folks (whether by snail mail, Facebook, text messages or phone calls), that’s not sustainable in everyday life. The person I call to seek advice on a problem at work, the person I call when I’m walking from my car late at night…those are my people. The ones who make me happiest and the ones I should, therefore, invest the most in.
I’ve always had such a hard time letting friendships and relationships go. I felt like a failure when in reality, two people just simply grew apart (usually for good reason).
I now know that having peace with letting people go is not admitting defeat or failure. It’s not saying I don’t care about them or their happiness; it’s just realizing that our relationship might no longer be a part of their (or my) happiness equation.
One of my other goals for 2015 was to be debt-free, and that became a reality today. Now, I think I’ll call one of my people – my happy friends for a happy life – to share the good news.